When we first got married, I thought Jim and I were supposed to spend every waking moment together. I mean, we’d picked each other–or better yet–God had brought us together as soul mates. Why in the world would we want to be apart if we didn’t have to?
Genesis 2:24 – For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
Right? At first, it was Jim who came up with the idea of “alone time” as being one of the keys to happiness in marriage. He needed a little time to himself every now and then. And eventually I caught on. As crazy as I am about my husband, I like the occaisonal day or evening or morning or whatever all to myself. It makes our marriage better if we part ways so that we can come back together and share our seperate experiences. Time to know who WE are, so we can be united in harmony.
Five times Proverbs mentions how difficult life is with a quarrelsome wife. It’s better to live on the corner of the roof or to live in the dessert than to have a quarrlesome wife. A quarrlesome wife is like constant dripping–and so is a quarrelsome husband. And what causes us to be quarrelsome? Well, constant proximity can have that effect.
We all need “alone time” and what better way to spend it than in fellowship with God? Meditation, relaxation, time to listen to the still, small voice that is so often drowned out in our day-to-day interaction.
Q4U – How do you spend your “alone time” and how does it renew you?