Guest Post – Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman

Truth. Lies, and the Single WomanAllison and I met at The Cove in Asheville at a writer’s retreat. We had lunch together in that fabulous dining room overlooking the mountains. She was single then and working on a book to help other single women stay true to God in the midst of their singleness. Now she’s one of the most happily married women I know who hasn’t forgotten what it was like to be single and praying for a partner. Her book is a gift to single women everywhere. I SO wish it had been around when I was at that stage in my life–it would have saved me a lot of grief and aggravation! And although the book is aimed at single women, there are truths here that apply to everyone.

Trusting God to Show Up–Allison Flexer

During my many years as a single woman, I often wondered whether God cared about the details of my life. Of course, I’ve always known that God loves me. I’ve heard it since I was a little girl and accepted God’s love as fact. I simply wasn’t sure whether the God of the universe had time to help me with my dating life.

Have you ever been running late to an appointment and catch yourself saying a prayer for all the traffic lights to be green? I feel guilty for bothering God when I know it’s my own fault for leaving too late. Similarly, I experienced guilt when asking God for help during my single journey. Maybe I made the wrong choices and my singleness was my own fault.

Does God really care about the details of our lives? Will he help us even when we’ve messed up?

The truth is . . . God wants us to trust him. We are never outside the reach of his loving arms and redeeming grace. Regardless of marital status, the battle to replace lies with truth is something we all encounter each day. When facing lies, we must put as much truth as possible into our lives. Accepting God’s truth from the Bible is a great place to start.

One of my favorite Bible verses is Exodus 14:14: “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.”

The times when I become still and quiet and wait for God’s instruction, he always shows up. He nudges me in the right direction. Deep in my spirit, I know he cares about my choices and the details of my life.

God loves us more than we can imagine. In that infinite love, he created a plan for each of us. We can trust God to show up in our lives. He is trustworthy. He will fight for you.

AllisonBio: Allison K. Flexer is an author, speaker, and blogger. Her first book, Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman (Beacon Hill Press), tells the story of her single journey and gives practical steps for letting go of the lies that destroy the joy and confidence of unmarried women. You can connect with Allison on her website at or on Twitter: @AllisonKFlex.

Giveaway: Beacon Hill Press is giving away 10 copies of Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman on GoodReads.


Published by Sarah Loudin Thomas

Author, wife, child of God.

7 thoughts on “Guest Post – Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman

  1. I was having a terrible time getting the sheets on Jean’s bed without a struggle. Said “Please Lord help me do this.” Couple of weeks ago it occured to me to move the bedside table and it was much less of a struggle. God does care about the minor things in our lives… if we listen. Now I need to hear from Him about how to get my sheets to go on as smoothly. 🙂

  2. Excellent, Allison! And there’s that awesome verse again. How often are we so preoccupied with our busyness that we simply shove God to the side?

    Thanks for the reminder today to simply be still, be quiet, and to listen/watch for God. 🙂

    Congrats to you on your amazing book and I hope you have a wonderful blog tour!

    1. Thanks so much, Mary! I’ve definitely been convicted lately about being too hurried to be still and listen to God. I’m trying to work quiet moments into my daily routine and remember that I can trust him to show up.

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